I'm taking my first foray into therapy since high school. There's no one near my office on the poly friendly professionals list (see http://polycat.org/pro).

I did get one nearby recommendation from a friend, but she's not taking new patients right now. So I looked through my insurance listing for the 5 therapists nearest my office, and left messages for them all.

On the messages, I said "I'm looking for someone who is comfortable with alternative lifestyles", or some such, just to let folks weed themselves out right then if they wanted to.

When I got calls back, the first couple did not go very well. The first one was clearly uncomfortable with the idea of poly, and eventually allowed that his own "philosophy" was in conflict. Ruled that one out.

The second one was also unfamiliar with polyamory, and while she said that she was willing to work with someone in that sort of relationship, I didn't get a good feel about it, so I didn't pursue it.

The third person, on the other hand, had exactly the attitude I was looking for. He articulated clearly that he did not bring an agenda into therapy, and that while he was unfamiliar with polyamory he was happy to learn about it and saw no problem with the baseline understanding that poly was not the problem i was there to treat.

I met with him this week, and brought with me the two articles directed at therapists that are linked from http://polycat.org/pro to give him. Our first session went well, and it will be interesting to see what questions he comes back with for the second one.